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Joshy George, Motivator & Counselor, Success Pyramid

“One can do wonders, once he kept away from bad temper or huff and interference in other’s matters” – Robin Sharma

The divergence in the personalities of the man and woman is the root cause for the discontented family life of a married couple. Man who possesses a distinctive personality always longs for his partner to come in terms with him. If he cannot succeed, he may get mad, even do not mind show his muscle power over his partner. If the outcome does seem to be negative, there will be ray of frustration all over his life and that may reflect in his conjugal life too. It is true and experimented fact that an introvert cannot be transformed into an extrovert. This reality might have been accepted by the society as a whole.

Recognizing this fact, a man and woman must try to build their conjugal life upon a common attitude they possess. They may get an opportunity to make their relationship more affectionate and thus making their relationship most fruitful. In this respect they must voluntarily be ready to undergo the changes to attune to the whims and fancies of the respective spouses or at least deliberately pretends to come in terms with each other in respect of the issues where there may be a tendency of disputes cropping up. An introvert never interested to visit friends or relatives whereas an extrovert accompanies his/her partner to visit each other’s friends and relatives or involve in any activities preferred by respective partners.

Definition of Man in respect of family life

So many reports on the scientific studies about the men and women have already been published.

Generally man always wants to get respected so far he is nursing himself a belief that he is powerful and majestic and he wishes him to be termed in such a fashion by the society.

It is ironical to say that he may not have anything in him which calls for any attraction that inspires others to respect him. Still he is such a creation always yearning praises and admirations. He always longs for motivations. He wishes others to say that he is such a person beyond everybody’s imagination. Even he does n’t like to be treated as a failure in respect of his activities by anybody, rather he would be offended in case his better half finds reasons to blame him.

Definition of Woman in respect of a family life     

Majority of the women would like to be controlled by their husbands and a woman would like to be fascinated by her husband and find a man in him. It is true that in the modern generation women folk who have been succeeded to make earnings, used to be independent but their inherent feature always prompts her to be succumbed to the warmth and the affection of her man.

Though they have strong mental power, their inherent physical features let her find relief in her man rather than trying to dictate him.

Yet we can find  some immature and callous women who are being dominated with mans’ hormones may make efforts to bring their husbands to their terms and dancing to her tunes. This group used to possess a man’s traits rather than having soft expressions of a woman.

As far as man is concerned he does not want to be confined to a single woman, but to blend with other woman folk of his choice one by one. A successful woman win the race when she could draw the attention of her man towards her physical and mental appeal without letting him think of any woman other than her.

A man takes decision after a long trial of proceedings of his brain, but a woman out of her intrinsic nature could able to take a decision within a matter of minutes maximum. This attitude of the woman have been traced in the experiments conducted in the last century.

What a man expects from his wife/woman

When a man gets back home after his hectic activities, he longs for pleasure and appreciation from his wife apart from her sincere support throughout. He desires to make himself delighted on observing  his wife’s face absorbing or atleast smiling when he comes back home after his work. Atleast he wants her never to be tough towards him though she may have some differences with him or she is little bit reluctant to comply with him. The ideal wife in his concept is a woman who have very few complaints. If she interacts with her husband with more complaints tends to get hated by her husband is a well known fact. Rather she is supposed to expend in accordance with the income. These virtues of woman will be the fascinating features that a husband used to expect from his wife.

What a woman expects from her husband/man

A woman looks ahead to get herself and her children protected by her husband. She also looks forward to find economic stability along with life comforts. The fundamental thing that a woman used to nurse is that her identity should be recognized by her husband. She never likes to get blamed for each and her activities even though her man is not inclined to encourage her in her activities. But she seldom expects him to be a critic always but anticipate atleast some admiration.  She always wants to see him to be with her and get her deserving part as the spouse and dominating associate in the family subject to the control of her husband. She always wants her spouse to be charming and delighted.

It is also to be borne in mind that the marriage never makes a wife or husband a model wife or husband in the society. The spouses are supposed to be combine together and as  a result some matters would be realised by them.

The initial days immediately after marriage calls for physical attraction from both sides. But after this sweet period, they should comprehend the importance of conjugal life with utmost sincerity. They should realise the strength and weakness of each partner and above all they should not make any reservation in respect of making their married life a success by satisfying each others’ aspirations and happiness. Their sincere efforts to get united at any cost and comprehending each other would be the fine qualities which inspires the couple to go for success in leading the married life a success.

Rather than physical attraction, there should be rational application of their attitudes which should lead to a state of “intimacy”. This would pave a means to take responsibilities of their conjugal life along with the accountability of  taking care of the needs and desires of both partners. With these virtues forms a triangle of love and affection between the spouses and it tends to form a solid foundation for their married life makes their family more brittle and never get yielded to any internal or external devastation.